3 ways you can start practicing letting go of judgement

Would you like to learn how to live life without the fear of being judged?

The truth about judgement is that it can be dangerous. It keeps people trapped and stifles creativity, individuality and personal growth. 

If the judgement you face comes from your own inner-critic it can impact your identity and sense of belonging. It can stop you from reaching your true potential and making decisions that can bring you true happiness and inner peace. 

Letting go of the fear of judgement and re-wiring your psyche to tame your inner-critic is hard work. It takes self-awareness and recognition and consistent training of your brain, but it’s not impossible. With patience and practice you can begin to live your life free of the shackles of the fear of judgement whether that’s from society or yourself.

Here are three ways you can start practicing letting go of judgement and begin reframing any unhelpful thoughts:

1 - Restate the judgement in terms of goals - Instead of saying, “Her public speaking is always so fun and interesting and I’m so boring,” say “She’s great at engaging her audience. I want to learn to do that.”

2 - Remember that thoughts and feelings are not facts. Ask yourself “what is something I think I am no good at work or in my career?” Take a few moments to question, is this thought helping? Is it really true/realistic? In what way/s might it not be true/realistic? Do you want to shape your career around it? Select a new thought. That’s right, we have choice around our thoughts! If you aren’t ready to switch the thought from negative to positive, find a neutral one and over time you can graduate to a more favourable one. With repeated practice in noticing your self-judgements and creating new thoughts to replace them, you’ll start to notice hundreds of tiny little decisions you make based on self-judgements, without even realising it.

3 - Avoid comparing yourself to others. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Comparisons are usually done in a superficial way by looking at your weaknesses in terms of someone else’s strengths, not the whole picture, and without complete information. When you judge yourself, consider what you are leaving out, and what the bigger picture is.

I’ll finish by saying this. One of the best things about coaching with me? It’s a judgement-free zone! I believe anything is possible for you and you are allowed (and encouraged!) to want what you want from your career and life more broadly.